Life is all about learning, trying, failing, trying again, failing again, and eventually having success or quitting. That is true for just about everything we do in life. As we go through life, we are met with trauma and wounding, develop adopted thinking that isn’t based on fact or on our own beliefs. These events shape us into people that are vastly different from who we are at the soul level. To let go of the person that has developed and step into the person that you are at the soul level, a journey of healing is needed. I call this journey of healing, personal growth, and spiritual growth, A WALK TOWARD EXPANSION. The steps to take during this walk are steps that require consistent attention. Each step is something that we work on for the rest of our lives. It would be amazing if we could achieve them and they stuck with us but nope, that is just not the case. Through my own journey, I have found that the following steps are necessary to expand ourselves to be the best version of ourselves.

· Self love

· Align yourself

· Reclaim your power

· Stand in your dignity

· Humility let go of control

· Practice compassion

· Open to the possibilities

· Be led into expansion

The walk to expansion is one of the most compassionate journeys you can take yourself on. The freedom that begins to form, almost at once, gives inspiration to trudge through the difficult parts of growth.

It is not always important to know why we struggle with certain things; struggle is part of being human. What is baffling to me is why we struggle with the things that we are already aware of and need to accept as they are. For example, finding love and joy within ourselves, not from another person. “Cowboy,” my main guide, is telling me this morning as I struggle myself that when we have self-love, unconditional self-love, there is a connection with our soul that exudes joy and peace. This joy and peace come at no cost, and it is as pure as it can be. It is when we come to understand our personal value that we finally stop looking outside of ourselves for that feeling of love and acceptance. My question for “Cowboy” is, why is it so hard? Why is it so hard to find that love and peace within? His answer, this morning anyway, is lack. When there is a hint of lack around our worth, a hole is created, and we begin to look outside of ourselves to fill that hole. It is an illusion; we are taught that our inner holes need to be filled by another person. When we can begin to trust our instincts of self and look inward to our soul, to our guidance, we begin to realize that the hole becomes larger when we try to fill it from an outside source. We are the source of love.

As I typed those words from “Cowboy”, I find myself still asking why is it so hard? The answer I was just given is doubt. You doubt that you are a spiritual being, you doubt that you own the gift of love. You have allowed your mistakes, your illusions, and your unclear thinking to override what you know at the soul level. You doubt what you ultimately know to be true. Allow forgiveness to fill your heart and find your soul.

NOTE: The bold type was directly channeled from my main spirit guide whom I call Cowboy

Ever want something so badly that you did not even notice that it was something you already had? Creating expectations around things we want can put a bubble around them, making it impossible to have any clarity.

Relationships are a prime source of chasing what we already have. We put expectations on what a particular relationship should look like or feel like and if those expectations fall short, we give pursuit to chasing it somewhere else. Relationships are a funny thing; every person perceives what loves means so differently that even the slightest difference in our perceptions can mislead us into believing that the relationship is not genuinely what we want. These differences could be as simple as how we communicate or as complex as having love languages that seem incompatible. By allowing ourselves to become so attached to our expectations we can completely ignore the reality of what is directly in front of us and how wonderful it truly can be.

Goals are another thing we tend to chase. I am studying Qigong so I will use that as an example. When I began taking Qigong I had a goal in mind, since then, that goal is looking less and less like what I genuinely want to do. I have been struggling for months with no motivation or joy around Qigong because I am still chasing that goal I set. The messaging came today from a Spirit Guide that I am to move the goal post, throw out the original play book and write a new one. The instant I heard that message I knew it was right. Just because one goal is set that does not mean that it is absolutely the only goal that is an option. Chasing that original goal just because I set it was becoming a block. If I follow the guidance to stop chasing a goal, move the goal post and change my perspective on what learning Qigong means for me, I will open myself up to more possibilities.

Looking beyond what we think is truth is difficult, especially when we are trying to get a need met. We are vulnerable when we have needs but all too often, we block our own fulfillment. How often do we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to accept the fact that what we receive is truly what we need instead of what we thought we need? When we allow vulnerability, we can receive more and give more. When we block vulnerability and dig in our heels that we are right about what we need, about what we want, not only is our clarity removed, but our options are as well. There is no room for possibilities, compromise, or growth. There is no room for receiving more than what our ego is set on. There is also no room for giving back. We become so set on what we think we want that we ignore any balance of love and relationship, whether that is relationship with another person or with ourselves.