When we come into this life we are as close to pure love as possible for a human. It is only as we are exposed to the acquired thoughts and emotions of other humans that we begin to develop our own acquired thoughts and emotions that are vastly different from the pure love we were at one time.

Acquired thinking comes from the opinions and actions of people we are surrounded by, usually beginning with family. We develop certain ways of thinking, not only about ourselves, but about how others should be. Acquired emotions are those of a lower vibration that arise from fear. Fear feeds negativity and untruths. Through these acquired thoughts and emotions, we develop wounding and experience trauma. Our deepest wounding commonly happens when we are children and then becomes compounded in adulthood when we have not opened ourselves up to the experience of healing.

The longer we go through life without healing, the deeper our wounding is shoved down into our being and the more wounding we perpetuate onto others. When we are unhealed, we are unable to stand with humility and dignity, instead we stand with ego, aggression, criticism, resentment, and, well, the list is long.

Once healing begins it is a lifelong journey. It would be fabulous if healing were a onetime episode of clarity, and we could move forward in life with no wounding to hold us back. Unfortunately, that just doesn’t happen. The deep wounds that occurred early in life and were compounded as we grew older have layers, much like an onion, and when we get to the center, the core if you will, we believe we have exposed it all and have healed. Then we discover that there is a crazy underground garage attached to that wound. That underground garage shows up when we least expect it. We think we have healed some deep dark wound and then one day, something happens, and boom, it smacks us in the head. It can be devastating at first because we were so sure we had healed absolutely everything around that wounding.

When an underground garage shows up, the opportunity to change your life is presented. This usually, only happens with the deepest and most confining wounding. When we can peel away the layers and come face to face with our truth, our lives are never the same. Our thoughts and emotions change, our perspectives change, and we find clarity that we never thought possible. These changes

happen anytime we are healing; however, when we make it through those deep wounds with crazy underground garages, the changes are usually profound.

We live in a world where everything is outside of ourselves. The 3D world of work, home, family, phones, televisions, or computers are things outside of ourselves that we become engrossed in on a regular basis. We become so engrossed that we become robotic in motion and in thought, we cease to be present. In other words, we become unaware of what we are experiencing, and we are ungrounded; our energy or light body is not integrated with our human body. You might relate to this if you bump into walls or furniture, stub your toe, don’t hear people when they’re talking to you. Those all quite common when we are ungrounded. There are a multitude of reasons why we become ungrounded, from simple daydreaming or preoccupation to dissociation. (WebMD states: dissociation is a break in how your mind handles information. You may feel disconnected from your thoughts, feelings, memories, and surroundings. It can affect your sense of identity and your perception of time.)

To become fully aware and present to our experiences, we need to be grounded. Our physical body and our light body need to become conjoined, and our energy pulled into ourselves and down into the earth. Our energy engaged and flowing into the earth or the “ground” is exactly what being grounded is.

Once grounded, we are given the gift of being present. That allows us to look at ourselves honestly, then look at the outside world with a new perspective. Each time we ground and as it becomes easier and more natural, we expand our awareness and open ourselves up to healing old wounding and adopted thinking and being a more active participant in our lives. Being grounded is something that everyone can benefit from, however; for those who work with the paranormal or metaphysical, being grounded is crucial for the highest outcome of your work. When grounded, it is easier to connect to guidance, to understand and translate the messages from guides and from Spirit and our energy can stay balanced and our mind focused.

There are endless techniques to ground, and I invite you to check back for a follow up blog on some of those techniques.

In the walk toward expansion, self-love is the first step and a step that requires attention every day for the rest of our lives. Learning to love yourself, really love yourself and be in acceptance of everything about you can be an arduous journey; however, it is one of the most beautiful things you can do for yourself.

There are, I’m sure, people that naturally have love for themselves and experience self-acceptance. Sadly, I know for certain that there are people that experience self-loathing, and it is my best guess that most people fall somewhere, anywhere in between those two groups. Finding love and acceptance of ourselves comes in so many ways and healing our old wounds and traumas is paramount in hastening the experience. From healing comes forgiveness which in turn allows acceptance and love. Within a journey of healing, we open our hearts to our soul, we open our eyes to the truth, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to seeing our traumas instead of reliving them, and that makes it possible to make personal decisions about what has happened in our lives and why. When we have clear understanding of our wounding, we can then find acceptance and forgiveness in one form or another.

Forgiving ourselves for our past traumas may sound like a crazy thing yet it is important for our journey that we are able to find forgiveness; not for what happened to us exactly, but for the thoughts and feelings about ourselves that we adopted because of what happened. We are fast to blame ourselves and slow to forgive. When healing begins blame fades quicker until we have no need to blame, and forgiveness gets easier with every experience we go through. As we go through the processes of healing and forgiving, we start to experience a new belief in ourselves, and love begins.